Posted on November 20th, 2024 By Raffi Bilek

I’ve been working as a therapist for about 15 years now. I have seen a range of clients who have entrusted me with their mental and emotional health, from the severely mentally ill to folks […]

Posted on November 8th, 2024 By Raffi Bilek

All relationships have their ups and downs. Conflict is bound to knock on your doors, whether it is friendship, a romantic involvement, or an acquaintanceship. Much like with an unwanted visitor, you can’t turn it […]

Posted on October 16th, 2024 By Raffi Bilek

Sometimes, family is all we have. Nobody knows you like your parents, grandparents, or siblings, as they’ve shaped the way you are today, for better and worse. They make up an important cornerstone of our […]

Posted on October 2nd, 2024 By Raffi Bilek

Imagine a world where every child grows up feeling safe, loved, and nurtured. Unfortunately, for millions of children, this ideal is far from reality. Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) are traumatic events that occur before the […]

Posted on September 2nd, 2024 By Raffi Bilek

Technically called the Gottman method for healthy relationships, this system represents the culmination of John Gottman’s life work and a partnership with his wife, Julie Gottman. Gottman’s Early Work Over the course of his academic […]

Posted on May 8th, 2023 By Raffi Bilek

If you are in the unfortunate position of suspecting your partner of infidelity, you are probably hugely bothered by the uncertainty. You may have good reason to believe something is up but aren’t able to […]

Posted on May 3rd, 2023 By Raffi Bilek

Any traumatic event a person experiences in a relationship can change how they feel or think about certain things. Being lied to by a romantic partner or getting your heart broken by your family’s words […]

Posted on April 3rd, 2023 By Raffi Bilek

While stress and anxiety are natural parts of the human condition, certain traumas or neurological dispositions can cause some people to struggle with these feelings beyond what is normal. And it seems like a lot […]

Posted on March 8th, 2023 By Raffi Bilek

Every couple goes through it. Some were expecting it, some get blindsided. But it is totally normal to find that once you have kids, your sex life just isn’t the same as it was before.  […]

Posted on February 9th, 2023 By Raffi Bilek

Relationships are hard, there’s no doubt about it. Many people find themselves asking, “how do I know if a relationship is right for me?” Most adults have been through at least one relationship in their […]

Posted on January 4th, 2023 By Raffi Bilek

It’s crazy. You thought you knew your partner. You thought the relationship was in a decent place. Sure, you have your fights from time to time. But this? How could they have cheated on you? […]

Posted on December 6th, 2022 By Raffi Bilek

If your partner is causing conflict and strain in your relationship, it might seem as if they need therapy to fix whatever’s going on for them so you can have the relationship you’re hoping for […]

Posted on November 17th, 2022 By Raffi Bilek

In the previous two posts we considered the reasons for getting divorced as well as the ramifications. In this post we’ll take a look at the alternatives to getting divorced – i.e., options to consider […]

Posted on October 24th, 2022 By Raffi Bilek

In a recent post we opened up the topic of divorce and what some of the reasons might be to consider it. In this post we’ll consider what the consequences of divorce could be. As […]

Posted on September 5th, 2022 By Raffi Bilek

The question of whether to end a marriage and seek a divorce is one of the hardest questions a person will ever have to face. It can be extremely difficult to weigh the pain you […]

Posted on August 1st, 2022 By Raffi Bilek

Substance abuse is a major behavioral and mental health challenge for any person to face. And there is a whole separate set of challenges that their spouse or partner faces. People struggling with addiction need […]

Posted on July 7th, 2022 By Raffi Bilek

Your marriage is really, really important to you. And if it’s encountering some turbulence, you don’t want to put it in the hands of someone who doesn’t know how to help you get back on […]

Posted on June 2nd, 2022 By Raffi Bilek

You cheated on your partner. You feel terrible. Between the guilt, the fear of discovery, the anger at yourself, and the rest of the crazy feelings, you don’t want to go on with the secret. […]

Posted on May 5th, 2022 By Raffi Bilek

If you’ve discovered that your partner has been having an affair, you may feel like your whole world has been rocked; your illusions have been shattered; your emotional life has been devastated. It is a heavy blow to bear, and for many people it spells the end of the relationship or marriage.

One of the hardest questions a person asks themselves when they find out about their partner’s infidelity is, “can he cheat and still love me?”

Posted on April 11th, 2022 By Raffi Bilek

Let’s look at how you can be supportive to a partner with erectile dysfunction:

1. Take yourself out of it
2. Get Informed
3. Ask Him What You Can Do
4. Talk About It
5. Encourage Him to Seek Professional Help
6. Engage in No-Pressure Physical Contact
7. Try Sex Anyway, and Have a Backup Plan
8. Don’t Give Up